Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday Ivy has school. Usually our morning goes something like this:
Me: Ivy get dressed.
Ivy goes into her room and shuts the door. Ten minutes later I open the door to find her playing on the floor in her pajamas.
Me: Ivy!
Ivy: Don't mama! You make me sad! (unintelligible screaming)
Then Ivy goes to time out for being disrespectful. Time out ends and I say, "Now what are you going to go do?"
Ivy: Get dressed.
Ten minutes later I check on Ivy and we repeat the process. Why I keep doing this day after day I don't know. According to Einstein I am insane. Well Bryan left for a business trip this morning and I'm determined to maintain my sanity while he is gone. I decided today is natural consequences day.
Yep, there she is - going to school in her pajamas with a wet pull-up, no breakfast, and no coat. I have to say I feel like a horrible mother sending her to school this way but I feel like a horrible mother after the yelling battles too so *shrug* what can you do? The problem is ... I don't think she cares. I don't think this is going to do the trick. Please Help!
8 comments:
Ugh! I went through this same battle with my little girl. (I don't think we have met. I was a friend of Bryan's from Ricks) What we finally did was made a checklist of things to be done in the morning. Ours was just on her white board but I have seen them laminated with movable parts (Like a picture of a toothbrush that has velcro on the back so it can be moved from the "needs to be done" column to the "done" column. So she can check it off or move it over when she has accomplished the task and then have a reward set up for when the whole list is complete. Like a quick game before school or a short cartoon or something she likes. Rewards right after the tasks are complete at first and then after a week of completed tasks start rewarding weekly. It worked for us. Hope this helps.
Would she be upset if she misses pre-school? Maybe instead of the natural consequence of going not ready- try if she's not ready she doesn't get to go. Or get to do anything until she's ready for the day. I'm sure it'll also suck for you for a few days, but maybe it'll motivate her to get on it.
This is hilarious!!! Kids have no concept of time...if you find something that works, please share, I think every mother in America could benefit!
And I love those pictures of your family and of Peter and Ivy in the post below.
I have no suggestions for you, I was just curious to see what other people have suggested. Good luck with that. Should we move forward to adopt? JK :)
Gee Danielle, I wish I had an answer for you, but as you know I don't. I know let her sleep in her clothes and then she's dressed for the morning :)
Find something that really motivates her. For my head strong determined little girl it was stickers. I bought fancy glitter stickers and every morning she would jump through the hoops to get a chance to pick a fancy sticker to wear to school..
I am Jeana sister-in-law
That's my Howard...totally know how you feel!
Hey, I have Ian! The nurse at school called yesterday and told me he cut his tounge with scissors (don't worry really wasn't a bad cut) and what was funny was how shocked she was at how not shocked I was that he did it. My interesting child....
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